Should a teenager still sleep with a parent?

I have a female friend who I am starting to see. Here is the problem she has a teenage daughter that still sleeps in the bed with her at night. The child is in 9th grade and still sleeps with her mother...


I am not sure how healthy this can be. The teen trys to rule her mothers every moment in life and is really bossy towards her mother..


We can't watch tv or a movie together and can't spend any quality time together the child rules the mothers life... What do you think? Cut my losses now?Should a teenager still sleep with a parent?
Well while I'm sure she's being protective of her mother, she is also most likely jealous of the time you two share. Maybe she's worried you will replace her father? Whatever the reason is as far as her sleeping with her mother maybe they are just close. I do believe at a certain age kids should start sleeping in their own bed in their own room, but if my son was scared for some reason I know I couldn't turn him away. I mean he's my baby.


I would express your feelings to your friend before you just cut her out of your life. But don't come on like you against her daughter or something. Just let her know how you feel. You'll just have to watch how you word it. And the teen years can be really confusing ESPECIALLY for girls.


But if it's not something your comfortable with I would let the friend know this honestly and then leave, but if your wanting to try then let her know how you feel and take it from there.


But don't just cut them and run. Teenagers are hard to deal with especially when you aren't their biological parent. It's a sad truth, but something everyone just has to accept.


Also, maybe you could try coming up with plans that could also involve the daughter. Maybe she is feeling lonely and left out. You could all go bowling or go to a movie together, and talk to the girl find out about her and what she likes. Then she might warm up to you, and her mother will definetely love it.Should a teenager still sleep with a parent?
My relationship with my mom was black and white. She could be very loving and caring one day and very abusive towards me the next. She was abusive more so though. But growing up, no matter what she did to me, i clung to her. And i did often sleep in her bed with her. I stopped at the end of the summer before my freshman year in high school because i was starting to realized she wasn't a great mom at all.








What her daughters doing is trying to find comfort somewhere. She could be reeling from something she went through or is going through and just needs to be close to her mom.





I guess it depends on you and what you see in your relationship with this woman. Is it worth trying to talk to her and see why her daughter still sleeps with her and try to get it worked out or would you not mind calling it quits with her right now? After you can answer that, you can get things settled.
Just because something is outside of your particular experience, it doesn't automatically mean there is anything wrong with it. In many cultures it is common for children to sleep with their parents until adulthood. I have a great-aunt who slept with her Mom until the age of 18 because they just didn't have enough beds for everyone. Can those with the negative comments explain precisely why it would be unhealthy for a child to sleep with their parent?





This in itself shouldn't be a reason to end a relationship. But it sounds like there are other issues between the two of you.
Wow that sucks, I don't think it's too healthy...


My boyfriends mom still sleeps with her youngest son, who happens to also be in the 9th grade lol, and he acts like that to her. I completely disagree with it but hey wat say do I have in it? I think you should consider the fact that this relationship with her would be more stressful because of the situation then good for you...If she doesn't sort that out I don't think you could have a healthy relationship with her...


Good Luck!
obviously the mother has some guilt as to why her father isnt still with them and is letting her daughter feel it is her mother fault by showing her guilt by letting her get away with whatever she want..this would be a difficult situation, somehting that won't be solved by magic one day if you really like her you will stick with her and let her know its not her fault her realationship with her father failed, and push her towards how she should be mothering her child
Talk to your friend and sees what she saids. And give her time to think about it





If she also thinks that its a problem, try and offer some ideas like counseling, stricter rules, and perhaps someone like Super nanny (XD.) Maybe just watching those types of shows will help out.





If she doesn't think its a problem, just say alright. She has to realize that it is before you do something.





And above all else, get more opinions, I'm just one person, and don't really know that much about this or your friend.





Good luck, hope everything turns out well.
well, at least it's her daughter and not her son, but seriously that is a bit weird. Mostly that the daughter is in high school and wants to sleep with her mom. It does sound like the mom feels guilty about something, so she lets her daughter get away with everything.





Maybe take a step back from the relationship, see if this is something you really want to pursue. I really don't think things will change between them and you are always going to be the outsider.
Once in awhile (a bad break-up, etc) isn't a big deal...but every night?! A parent's job is to raise their child to be independent and self-sufficient. From the sounds of it, she has failed at this. I'd definitely get out of there, because if you object the mom will likely toss you on your ear anyway.
Wow have you talked to your friend about this situation? What does she say? Does it seem to be that she doesnt really agree with it but goes along with it cuz of her bossy daughter? Or does she think its perfectly normal? I would talk it over with her before making any decisions. Might be kinda awkward to bring up though...... good luck !
RUN!!!!!!
Maybe she has some sort of health problems or mental problems.Maybe shes had some sort of problems somehow.





Try asking her exacly, WHY she sleeps with her.Their may be a good reason.
Run - don't walk - away, and don't look back.
That's weird. Cut your losses now.
It is morally and ethically wrong.


Get out of there!


The mother needs serious help
Strange ways in West Virginia Mountains, Huh?
I'd cut them and run... fast.