How to tell parent about my stupid mistake with minimum hurting them?

i have one child with a man who i love but his wife refuse to divorce with him. my parent is in old age, in our religion and culture, they will be heartbroken for my mistake. i do not want to hurt them, i have hidden the truth for many years.How to tell parent about my stupid mistake with minimum hurting them?
If you have not been honest for all of these years, what makes you want to put them in their grave worrying about this now?How to tell parent about my stupid mistake with minimum hurting them?
Which religion doesn't speak of the importance of compassion and forgiveness. Remind them gently and humbly of these traits and ask for them.Who deserves them more then their own child.Remember humility can open hearts and minds especially to loving parents. God Bless


Also you say they will be heartbroken. If thats true and loving the heartbreak is for you. Which is ok they should feel sad for your situation. But can overcome the sadness with the joy of a beautiful grandchild.
Honey, men always say it is the wife that will not give them the divorce. He doesn't want to marry you. Give him up. You deserve better. Telling your parents would only hurt them or would they welcome a grandchild? Why would you love a man who would cheat on his wife? Surely you know all the bad things he says about his wife are lies.


You deserve so much better and so does your child and so does the wife.
I agree with Peggy S, why tell them now? And what exactly are you telling them? That your bf won't leave his wife? Why are you dating a man who is married with no intention of leaving anyway? They all say they are going to leave, you know how you can tell when they are actually going to do it? When they do it. Don't wait around and hope for it to happen, it's not going to! Get on with your life!
Well... he could force a divorce if he wanted to. Make sure you're getting child support and do yourself a favor; leave him. Look for someone else who will love you the way you deserve and be a dad to that child.





As for your parent... my mom would be heartbroken for one of her kids doing something like that. But, that's because she loves us and wants the best for us, and would know that a decision like that brings so much sorrow. I would say just bring the child over, say ';This is my daughter/son...'; and just apologize for not bringing them over sooner. Your parent will more than likely ask you, later discretely, about the father. Admit it was a stupid mistake, that you loved him but he used you. Say that you don't want to talk about it more than that, and move on. That's all you have to say. It was a mistake, I loved him, he used me, I'm so happy to have my child so don't you DARE make him/her feel like they were the mistake.
You have ';hidden the truth for many years';...Haven't your folks ever seen this kid?


Wow... in ';many years';, this dude isan't gonna leave his wife. Go to the Court and gat child support.





Tell your parents that you hava a kid... bring her/him to meet them. they will not fly off the handle...they will love the young poppy.








hugs for the baby





Gina
You really have to ask yourself if telling them will do more good in someway than the pain you will cause.





Do you want to tell them for their sake, or to somehow relieve your conscience? I would suggest you think about finding a friend or a therapist to talk to if that is all you really need.
There is not a way. She refuses to divorce him huh? He is feeding you a line of bull. She cannot refused to divorce him. It takes a little longer if she is uncooperative but he can get a divorce anyway.
What religion are you? If you're muslim then they'll kill you, i literally mean kill you. It happened to my friend. (RIP sarah) Don't tell them anything.
sometimes you have to spare their feelings and keep quiet