I don't think it is ever inappropriate to see a family member naked, if both are comfortable with it. I grew up seeing my mom and brothers naked (my dad was a bit more uncomfortable about it). When my brothers hit puberty, they just naturally became more private, as did I with them. Now that we are older, we are still modest, but I have no problem breastfeeding my daughter while they are around, and they will get right down in her face to give her a kiss good-bye or whatever without even flinching. I believe we all have a healthy respect for our bodies, as well as the opposite sex body. My parents were always very open about any thing when it came to that ( my mom more-so than my dad). We all knew what a period was, or a wet-dream, or an erection, or what breasts or a vagina or a penis looked like. We didn't have to find out from peers, who have very odd ideas about peoples bodies.
I am very glad that I was raised this way, I think we have all benefitted from it. My mom was in the room with me when i gave birth to my daughter, and I couldn't have been more comfortable about it. She was also indespensible when it came to helping me latch my baby on right right after birth. I'm glad that we can all feel comfortable around each other. And many of the questions children ask are healthy, natural curiosity. If you answer it matter-of-factly and truthfully, children accept it very well. I think that acting like your body is ';private'; can encourage an unhealthy obsession, an ignorance, or a shameful attitude towards the human body... more specifically THE CHILD'S body. But telling your child that it is private outside of the family is usually naturally understood.When is it no longer appropriate for a child to see their parent naked?
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That's a good question. My kids are 3 %26amp;4 and I take baths with them all the time. I like you can't let them run around with out someone watching them. I guess I'll stop when I see that they start to notice how our body parts are different. Right now they don't pay any attention to it at all. They think bath time with mommy is fun.
I guess in my family we are very open. Dad covers up but the kids and I don't. (Dad was raised as if his body was bad..I still see my mom naked sometimes.) I have 2 daughters (8 and almost 2) and 1 son (4). My 8 year old has asked me questions about her period and about sex (no big ones yet.. thank goodness). I answer her. I noticed that when I am naked or dressing she is more open to asking me. I continue with what I am doing and answer her. I think if you act like it is inappropriate they wont ask. She has heard some strange things at school (like you grow a uterus when you get pregnant!) and I am glad we are open enough to be able to ask and answer these questions properly! It only becomes a problem if you let it or if you or your children are uncomfortable. You be the judge!
When the kid starts pointing and laughing, or when the parent feels really awkward.
i wouldnt worry about it at all...especially since you are both girls.....I dont see anything wrong with it at all...do it for as long as you both want...she will eventually tell you she doesnt want to shower with you anymore or maybe she could just sit and play on the bathroom floor....
and how old is too old? well......I personally am still not ashamed to be naked in front of my mother or see her naked...we dont go around flaunting our bodies, LOL, but if shes over and Im in the shower and she needs to talk or use the bathroom, I dont care at all and Im almost 25, plus I had her in the room with me when I had my first son...then my sister was with me for my second...I would say its all a personal choice
and its only gross or nasty when you teach your child that it is ...but I would tell them its not ok in front of others
Don't think there is a specific age that it becomes 'innapropriate' - just use common sense. Even when my kids grew older and just 'walked into' my bedroom and I was getting dressed, I just kept dressing - not cover up and run away. You are only teaching them that your body is something to be embarrassed about. I am NOT saying 'parade around naked', just go on as if nothing has happened. Around 3yrs old, I stopped bathing with my kids as they started asking specific questions like ';why do you have....and I don't';. You can just answer that boys and girls have differences - no need to go into great detail at 3yrs old.
The child will usually get to a stage where she does not want to see you naked and will say, ';Gross, Mom!'; But you'll still see each other sometimes in locker rooms and trying on clothes.
I personally don't bathe with my 16-month-old anymore because she pinches me or slaps my butt. I just shut her in the bathroom while I take my shower and she cries, but so what, it only takes me 10 minutes.
That is indeed a good question. I have a 3 year old little boy and he gets in the shower with me sometimes. Sometimes we have no choice. I am not about to let my 3 year old run around wild while I'm in the shower. I'd get out of the shower, he'd have me a mud pie waiting and the dogs would have new hair cuts! Not taking that chance!
Same sex parent I'd say it's always approprite, but that dosn't mean parade around naked and opposite sex parent probably 2 or 3 it would stop being appropriate.
if its the same sex its ok id say until 3.5 yrs, it will sort of prepare her for the future, my earliest memories are wen i was like 4.5 so i think its safe...
my daughters are 4 and 6 and still see me naked all the time, my oldest son is 5 though and he hasnt seen me naked since he was about 2. and the girls dont see my husband naked either.
It is never inappropriate, only unsuitable behaviour once naked would be.
well personally a girl could be that bit older than a boy, i would say about 4 or 5 , just depends on how the child is in the shower. maybe when you become more uncomfortable.
My daughter is 5 now and I chalk it up to we're both girls so it's not a big deal. Now my husband on the other hand has been covering up since she was two and a half. So I guess it depends upon your comfort level. Now a days if I want to take a shower I can let my daughter watch TV downstairs and she's fine.
To be honest to this day my I see my mum naked. I'm from the seychelles islands and there its normal that a daughter sees her mother and vice versa naked. And same goes with dads and sons. I don't mean we go prancing around in the nude, but if I am in the shower and need something and call for my mum or sister, they will come in the bathroom. I can't ever remember seeing my dad naked, so he must have stopped at a very young age with us or not at all. Some people won't see their parents naked. Basically its your up bringing.
If it's the same sex parent I would say defiantly by the time they go to public school. For different sex parent I would recommend between 2-3 years old. Of course if your house is very open and free with your bodies it could go later but I teach preschool and they are very aware of body parts and are willing to share with the class. Make sure if they do talk about what they see that they understand that it is a family thing.
What is it with nudity that bothers people? I think it is all in how you are raised!! Just because your children see you naked it doesn`t mean you are sexually abusing them!Why shouldn`t your kids see you naked? It`ll only damage them if you make a big issue out of it. Everyone has a naked body under all those clothes! Now it`s not right if someone touches your naked body in ways it makes you uncomfortable, but why is nudity considered abuse? We have locker rooms at swimming pools and gyms, is it abusive to take your child there to get changed?
i think for same sex parent and child, forever, or for as long as you are both comfortable with it. for opposite sex parent and child, not past the age of 2 in my opinion.
when the child is 1 day old.
All I will say is this:
When my sister was 13 months old, my parents took her over to visit her dying grandmother. To this day, Sis says that she can remember the placement of every piece of furniture in that room.
My grandfather remembered discussions between his parents about political candidates back when he was only two...
If a kid at 13 months has a memory like that...what details do you suppose they will remember at 24, 36, 48 months old? Perhaps there needs to be figured out a different strategy of bathing and watching her at the same time?
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Children must NEVER see parents naked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i think that when they are 3 thats enough because they can remember things by then and you would not want your child to go to school and say hey what are those round things on my moms chest
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