Wednesday, January 13, 2010

How do you prepare a Toddler for a parent's extended absence?

All of the adults in my family are going on a two week cruise, courtesy of my awesome in-laws. But... my son will only be 27 months when we go. How do we prepare him for such a long separation? He's staying with Nanna, whom he loves, but I'm worried that such a long absence will really upset/confuse him.


Does anyone have any ideas how we can prepare him?How do you prepare a Toddler for a parent's extended absence?
Don't mention it until just a few days before you leave, and don't make a big deal of it. Has Nanna kept him overnight before? If not, start doing that in the weeks before the cruise. That'll teach him that even though you leave him overnight (and for a couple of days, if possible), you will always come back.





We left my 12-month-old for three nights with his grandparents who lived out of state, and were not even that familiar. He did not miss us at all! He was like, ';Mommy who?'; he had such a good time.





We recently left our 22-month-old and 4-year-old for 5 days, with my parents, and the kids were totally fine. 2-year-olds have such a vague grasp of time, really, there's probably not much difference between a few days and two weeks.





Remember, kids pick up on your anxiety. Play it cool and it'll all be fine.How do you prepare a Toddler for a parent's extended absence?
i bet it'll be harder on you than him. at 27 months, when he wakes up one morning and you and the other family aren't there, he may get a little upset, but they are easily distractable at this age. as long as he has things to do, he won't think twice about it. and again, even if all of a sudden he gets upset, redirect his attention, and he'll get over it. have fun on your trip, enjoy the adult time, and don't worry too much.
My biggest advice -- start telling him about it now. Transitions are so much easier on toddlers when they're expected. Talk to him about who he will be with and the things he will do -- and how exciting it is that he gets to do them. Even though he doesn't understand time references, let him know how many days it will be until you leave. And if you'll be able to call to check on him, let him know you'll call him on the phone to talk.





These absences tend to be a lot harder on us than they are on the kids. :-)
It s bound to upset him he will be asking for you.if that was me i just wouldnt enjoy my hol one bit i would be missing my son like crazy it will probably be tougher on you.at least you ll know he s safe with nanna.she should prob take him out everyday as a distraction.hope you can enjoy the hol!
let him spend some weekend and some night during the week with nana
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