I am thinking of becoming a foster parent what should I expect?

My husband and I want more children we have two now 8 and 5 but we can no longer have children. We have been thinking of adopting but were not sure we could handle it yet. So our thought was to become a foster parent. Can you please give any advice of what to except and what problems we may come in contact with.





I am a stay at home mother and we are a very close family. We would offer a lot of love for any child.I am thinking of becoming a foster parent what should I expect?
Foster parents have one of the hardest jobs in the whole world. They take on kids who have often been through things we can't even imagine.





I remember one girl who went into foster care when she was 14. She had been raped regularly by her father since she was 9, he'd allowed other men to rape her, told her he'd kill her if she told anyone, her mother gave her alcohol to ';calm'; her(she occasionally had real fits of anger, gee wonder why!), and then she watched as her father moved on to her little sister.





That story was extreme, but not uncommon. She stayed with her foster parents until she was 18. She turned into a pretty darn good kid, with their love and a lot of counselling. Her foster parents adopted several of their foster children. And went through some horrible pain when a child they had raised from a few days old until she was 8 was taken away from them, given back to the family, and then was accidentally killed in a domestic dispute a few month later.





I knew another woman who was a foster parent. She had two kids of her own, whom she treated like princesses. The foster kids were treated like Cinderella...only a prince never came for them. They were treated as second class citizens all the way. I couldn't stand that woman.





You might get lucky and get really great kids who appreciate you. You may get unlucky and get kids who are abusive, steal, lie, and have some really major problems.





You may become attached to a child, and love them like your own, only to have them taken away from you.





You may have a child that you just can't stand, but there's no where else for them to go.





You can turn down children, or send them back if things simply aren't working. Generally you aren't out of pocket for anything that is necessary for the children. You'll be paid for their food and care, and their medical care and counselling will be paid for by the government. Sometimes what you think they need might not be provided. Sometimes you can lobby for what they need and get it, sometimes you'll have to pay for it yourself.





I've seen great foster parents who have had dozens and dozens of kids go through their homes, and every child was treated as if they were their own. I've seen others who would only take on one or two long term, and again, treated them like their own children. People like that are so desperately needed, and in my opinion are saints!I am thinking of becoming a foster parent what should I expect?
well it all depends on what age you plan on getting a child. getting a foster child as a new born is just simpliy a lot easier. you may have to talk to the parents of the child though and dealing with these people can be difficult at times. if you plan on adopting a child that is older than expect behavioral problems. most of these kids have been through a lot. and it'll take time for them to get used to living in a different place. good luck :)
Good move but some time when they older they are very hard to control especially if they are coming out of a trouble home wish you best of luck.
I think that be would be awesome.